The Truth on Wants & Needs

“I need to have.”
“I must have.”
“I have to have.”

These three phrases, and the mindset that accompanies them, are the root of many poor financial decisions. It’s not as if we’re saying…

“I must have my peace of mind,” or
“I need to have financial security,” or even,
“I have to have a sound financial foundation.”

When it comes down to it, the things we say we need, must have and have to have are physical and tangible and are worthless from a generational legacy perspective.

Are you in survival mode?

As a society, a large part of the lifestyle habits that we commit to were passed down by individuals who knew less about managing money than we do. A large percentage of the X and Y generations have only had minimal exposure to the host of financial literacy programs that are now available. All of the information is accessible, but over the last few decades, conditioning has kept our communities one pay check away from being poor. De we need a large SUV when we have one child? Do we need 500 cable channels when most of us don’t even have the time to watch that much television? Do we need to have $200 shoes and purses that will be worn once a month. And most of us certainly aren’t in the financial position to comfortably say that we need a mortgaged primary residence.

Go for generational wealth

We are, however, in the perfect financial position to say that we must have, need to have and have to have contentment, patience and faith. What we should do is understand the plumb lines for why our communities are in financial crisis in which we find ourselves. Many of our households are 1st generation rich, 2nd generation poor and 3rd generation free, with no generational wealth.

We can obtain generational wealth by first acknowledging and accepting what we’ve been doing wrong. Second, we must begin making the undesirable changes in our lifestyle habits. Third, we must put our hands to the plows and turn the tide not only for our lives, but in the branches of the family tree that are coming behind us. A shift in lifestyle habits is a must for the blue and white collar worker, the PhD and G.E.D. holders, the pre-teens and retirees and for whatever other financial classification you are in and desire to be in.

Decide to change…and do it!

1. Understand the Art of Saving — We cannot continue to pay every bill that comes in our name and not take care of ourselves first. Contrary to popular belief it is ok to be selfish in this way. You have to pay yourself first, no one else is going to. Yet by paying yourself first, you will build true savings for you and your family.

2. Be Committed — If you are single with no children, you really only have yourself to be financially responsible for. But if you are single or married with children, then this must be a family affair. Everyone in the family must be in full agreement with committing to the adjustments necessary to become a financially healthy household.

3. Set Real Priorities — Now this can be challenging, however we must be honest and transparent with ourselves and each other. List all of your needs and then list all of your wants. To differentiate between the two, “needs” are the reasonable necessities for living. “Wants” are all the unnecessary items that we can live without (if we wanted to) that must be prioritized by importance. We need a car, food and a roof over our heads. We want a BMW when Hyundai will do, filet mignon when ground chuck will suffice and 3500sqft when 1500 is plenty.

4. Create a Budget — Take one full month (not February) to track all of your expenses on a budget spreadsheet. If you or a family member purchased an item, then it goes in the budget. There’s conviction in seeing just how much we can spend by shopping spontaneously and eating out for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks.

5. Set Achievable Goals — Now that you see what you’re actually spending each month, create the budget that you would like to see. It’s always best to take small steps towards reaching your goal. With discipline and support you can reach your dream budget within 6 months! It will take some stretching but the results never lie and you will be glad that you committed to a budget that will benefit you and your family.

6. Learn All That You Can — Since money and banking are not subjects that are traditionally required in school, lack of a clear understanding of financial vernacular is the main reason why communities are so easily taken advantage of. A thorough understanding of financial terms is necessary to advance your household to financial freedom. Being a student didn’t stop with graduation and there are no degrees (AA, BA, MBA, JD, or PhD) handed out for the basics of credit and money. We will always be students.